Hello to all, this is my first blog and I hope that you all like it I encourage your feedback and comments. Here goes...
So your looking for a man, a boyfriend, a lover, however you take all of your dating advice from your single friends who sugar coat everything and make you feel like every guy out there is "missing out" if they don't like you. Ugh, that makes me want to puke! Its not true, sometimes you just don't have chemistry with someone and sometimes you are screwing everything up in the first week! It is your fault that you aren't meeting someone willing to stay for the long haul, not theres. So get over it and realize that you are the one that might need to make some changes.
To start, lets not make such a big deal about sex ladies. Either you want to have sex with someone or you don't, but to preface the act with "I just don't want sex to change things" or "I want to wait to make sure that you really like me" is scaring them off!! Yes they will still have sex with you either way, but after these phrases or others like the ones I mentioned they are going to run fast and hard. Its ok if you think these things, in fact you should, just don't say them out loud! Your single friends will tell you that "you should tell him exactly how you feel, if he doesn't like you for you, his loss" and this is exactly why they are wrong wrong wrong. If you do want to wait then do just that, wait, if you want to bang him on day one, although I might not suggest it if your looking for longterm, then just do it, you make your own decisions, stop with the games! Now, if you do mess up and say dumb things before you hop into bed, don't wait for his call, because he's not gonna call. YOU CALL HIM!! Its ok, I promise, just don't talk about the sex when you call, act nonchalant and just have a short nice conversation. Hopefully this will calm him down and make him less nervous, because you made him think that if he slept with you, then he had to put a ring on your finger the next day! This is what we want to avoid!! In conclusion, make your own decisions, but have a filter, don't say everything out loud, don't scare them off, and go with your gut.
